JAFFNA TRADITIONAL WEDDINGS.
Tamil matrimony of Srilanka web site is created for the information and assistance on the Tamil weddings specially for Srilanka Tamils living in Srilanka and abroad. Here we provide a page for free profile posting and there are other pages on the Jaffna Traditional and other Tamil traditional weddings.
This wedding information service is not only for Sri Lanka born people but also covers the other people's traditional wedding information too. In this web site you can find all the necessary information regarding the Jaffna Traditional weddings and in our Bride, Bride Groom section you can search profiles that can suite to be your partner. If you like you can contact them through their email addresses. Also you can submit your profile here if there are no suitable partners available as your wedding partner.
In Sri Lanka Tamil matrimony finding the correct partner for their children is a big part for the parents of young men and young women. If they find any suitable partners for their children within their relatives the parents of the girl or boy will ask the help of some elderly people to make the initial talk for the proposal. Other wise they will send messengers like friends or people who are living close by to them. Then both parties try to find out the possibilities to make the marriage to happen. Some time marriage brokers also take this part depending on the situation.
Once both parties agree to meet to discuss the marriage in the open, they will instruct all their neighbors, friends and relatives to take part in the discussion. This is to make the proposal public and also for the agreement to be made with sufficient witnesses on the terms and conditions agreed upon. This get together and the agreement normally take place in the prospective bride grooms house. Both parties will declare their individual positions, status, wishes, expectations, and come to an agreement including the full information on the dowry from the bride's side.
Again they all will meet and fix a date suitable for the wedding acceptable to all concerned people and according to the Tamil horoscope. Also they will fix the date and time to make the special Gold ornament Thaalee. Astrology plays a big part in these time and date selection. Once everything agreed and a date and time is fixed all the arrangements for the wedding will be start.
Melting of Gold for thaalee will take place at the Bride groom's place with special arrangements for the goldsmith to make it as a ceremony and there after all parties will be served with specially prepared food. Bride groom must be present at this occasion so that the bride's party can meet him personally. Gold smith will be in charge of this occasion and he will direct all the ceremonies. He will melt the gold provided in front of all to show that there is no fraud and everyone attending the occasion will be allowed to inspect the same. Another set of arrangements like sprouting grains and legumes in a pot for the wedding. Planting a Mulmurkku tree and preparing to make edible snacks for the wedding ceremony too will start on that day. On the arranged day of the wedding the bride's party will proceed to the Bride groom's place and bath him and decorate him, after that a turban will be placed on his head ceremoniously so as to indicate him as God Shiva. He will be taken in a procession to the place where the matrimonial will be held. In the mean time bride too will be bathed and decorated and taken to the venue by the groom party.
Where the Tamil speaking community keeps it's identity for their language and culture, because of living far away places uses Matrimonial link webs, Tamil Newspaper classifieds and marriage brokers to find partner for their children. They take much care to find out weather the bride or bridegroom was divorced as many divorced people hide it make another marriage.
Also many parents take time to find same cast partner for their children as most of the Jaffna people are still looking after their cast. In the other hand Jaffna origin parents of the grooms used to look for dowry form the bride family. Some greedy people are expanding it to unlimited level of wealth from the bride family and of this dowry plenty girls are staying unmarried even after passed marriage ages.